Most young and inexperienced parents can’t wait to have babies and make strong, independent people out of them. This kind of enthusiasm is really important, but it’s hard to maintain it. The thing that most new parents don’t know is how hard it is going to be to have everything under control and don’t lose yourselves along the way. If you want your child to be happy, you need to be satisfied with your life first – otherwise, you won’t be able to spread enough positive energy, so that your child can see it as support – which is necessary for them to grow mentally and physically healthy. In order to have everything covered, there’re a few things that you need to have in mind at all times.
Single out a part of your day to spend some quality time with your child. Don’t get panicky right away – this won’t take much from your busy schedule, you’ll need just half an hour tops. Right before bedtime, you should lie down with your child and go through your day together. You should start doing this at an early age and just talk to your child – he or she will find your voice comforting and it will make a safe zone out of this time you spend together. Also, you may look at this as an investment in the future – your child will get used to talking to you whenever she or he needs help or advice. You can’t protect them from every mistake they could make, but you can try.
Consider your child as if it was a little scientist. Young children are interested in absolutely everything and they ask a lot of odd questions. This is an exhausting phase, but that’s also a perfect time to show how supportive you are. Before you get irritated, remember how frustrated you were when your parents told you to stop asking absurd questions. If you work with your child while she or he is exploring, you’ll ease up a lot of things and help the whole learning process. When she or he gets a little older, you may find yourself not knowing an answer. Look at that situation this way – it’s never too late to learn something new.
After the million-questions-faze, most children keep their focus on things that they’ve already learned and stick to that. Again, you must look further into the future to realize how necessary it is for them to try everything so they know exactly what they like and what they want to do in life. Open their curious minds and take them everywhere – the zoo, children museums, cinemas, libraries… It’s never too early to try sports or test their musical talents. But, most parents make the same mistakes because they already know what they want for their child to do. You don’t want to force anything. Let them try out a few different things so they can decide what they like. It’s important to explain to them how important persistence it, but don’t overdo it.
It’s difficult not to lose yourself when you’re so preoccupied with the life that your child leads. You may want to say goodbye to your social life for a couple of months – you’ll need time to find a way to balance things out. You need to look at this situation like an opportunity – this is the right time to start doing something that you haven’t done in years – something you find fulfilling, like knitting or reading. Also, you may consider having a babysitter around for a certain amount of time, so that you can relax and enjoy something you like to do alone.
Crafts and projects
Having at least a pinch of creativity is very important in life – it makes everything more fun and it’s an acceptable way of having an inner child in you forever, because you can always play. If you want to develop your child’s creativity, you should consider DIY projects, even if you haven’t done anything like this before. This is a great way to expand your and your child’s physical skills and make something new and useful for your home. Even if it turns out to be a total disaster, you won’t regret it. If you don’t know where and how to start, here’s an idea – Halloween. Just imagine how much fun you and your child can have if you’re making a costume together – even better, make them for the whole family. This can turn out to be a great tradition that can even be passed on to your child, when they become a parent and the first story that your grandsons will hear will be about that first costume you’ve made and the first Halloween with you.