For most women, there is a time in their lives, usually in their twenties or thirties, when all of their friends, coworkers and relatives seem to be pregnant. Some women love this and really revel in following how the pregnancies are going and lavishing cute gifts on the expectant mothers they know, but for some girls, the whole baby thing just isn’t that appealing and they secretly wish their friends were still more into partying than Pampers. If you have found yourself invited to lots of baby showers and are not really thrilled about the prospect of spending your Saturday afternoons for the foreseeable future listening to conversations about breast pumps and all those other mysterious ‘baby people’ subjects, here are some ways to get through it!
Stick to the Safer Topics!
The conversation is going to be largely about pregnancy and babies, and that is something you have to face even if you would far rather be discussing Breaking Bad, the shoes you have been coveting, or the latest gossip at work. However, pregnancy and babies are a vast topic, and it can be possible to keep things in the realm of ‘nice’ and out of anything that is going to gross you out or just plain baffle you. Showers, especially those where a lot of the guests have already had babies, can descend into nightmarish conversations about the horrors of childbirth if you are not very careful, so try and steer people onto subjects of a less graphic nature like possible baby name choices, how they have decorated the nursery and plans for childcare.
Take a Like Minded Friend
Social situations that aren’t really in your usual field of experience can be much easier to navigate and even enjoy if you have a ‘buddy’. Where possible, bring along a friend who shares your lack of interest in the subject matter at hand, and you will at least have someone to talk to if you are finding the conversation a bit tricky or the party games a little lame! You may even find that you have a really good time if you and your friend throw yourself into the baby shower and don’t take yourselves too seriously.
Buy a Gift for the Mom
While you may be feeling a bit bored of pregnancy talk, imagine what it might be like for your pregnant friend herself, who has had nearly nine months of it and may actually miss feeling like her old self. You may not be much help when it comes to things expectant mothers need for when the baby arrives, so when choosing a gift instead try and think of something nice that will pamper her and make her feel good. Most people will buy things for the baby, and she will end up with hundreds of stuffed animals and onesies, but consider buying something just for her like jewelry or luxury bath products. This can be a nice thing to do, and also means you don’t have to try and figure out a good baby gift!
The author of this post is Chloe Adams, an employee at Board Book Albums, leading retailers of gift items for baby showers. Chloe is an adrenaline junkie and loves water sports.